B4 start........ Let me intro this " Love Bank"
Love Banks (every single person has tis)
*use "love units"
if a person u feel is good.. then add points into d Love Bank.... But if u dislike someone, it minus d love units in d Bank.
Love Unit Love Unit
uncomfortable -1 Comfortable +1
bad -2 Good +2
very bad -3 Very Good +3
Ext bad -4 Ext Good +4
D person has d highest love units in ur Love Bank would most probably be ur spouse...
So..............
5 Woman's needs
1. Affections (i love u) ....1 Corin 7:3
a. security
b. protection
c. comfort
d. approval
-song of solomon 4:1-9 -------------1. learn to hold hands
2. learn to hug
3. learn to praise
2. Conversation-- man should spend 15 hours a week for this
- share upon d common interest (things tat both like)
-philippian 2:4
3. Honesty & Openess
-share anything in ur mind(wil grow apart i dont do so)
-for burden(dont take it alone)... coz God design man & woman take burden 2gether
4. Financial support - 1 timothy 5:8
-wife expect man earn enug to fulfill her needs
-3 budget for couple : 1.Wat u ned
2.Wat u wan
3.Wat u can affort
-man ned make woman feel secure in this area
5. Family commitment needs
5 needs here....
1. lots of time (15 hr a week quality family time)
2.wise disciplines-- ephesians 6:4
- purnishment is for past sins, discipline is for the future
- reward when behave good
3.proper parenting skills (to raise up a kid, is not western nor asian thing, is a kingdom thing)
4.explain rules
5.anger(control)
- when a man avoid responsibility of a father, it would loss girl's heart, loss d units in Love Bank
Now 5 Man's needs
1.Sexual Fulfillment-- 1 Corinthian 7:4-5
- Unless is for God(prayer time eg), then man & woman are allowed to separate for a moment, if not, both ned to fulfill each other emontional needs
- God allow discrepancy btw man & woman coz He wants Love to be a blessing, enjoyment
2.Recreational Companionship (15 hours a week doing recreational activities 2gether)
-same interest activities (normaly guys prefer outdoor activities)
3.Attrative Spouse-- 1 Samuel 16:6-7
-physical attractiveness of wife/spouse
-5 important thing
1.weight control
2.make up
3.hairstyle
4.clothes
5.cosmetic surgery(based on research... tis also include like when a women's face full of pimples, can jus find ways to make her skin look smoother)
4.Domestic support
-needs peace & quiet at home (no argument if possible)--- Proverbs 17:1, Titus 2:4-5(keep a good house)
-3 steps:
1. make a list of al domestic work
Woman (hours) Man
20 ------> work <----- 40
30 kids 5
10 PTJ 10
30 huz work 10
90 (not balance- total) 65
2. fair division--divide d list nearly equal or equally... as in man should take more care of kids & do more huz work..... woman should reduce it instead
3. increase Love Bank (do things tat incease emotional needs)
5. Admirarion (Ephesian 5:33-- admires him exceedingly)
- Behind every man, thr's an admirig woman
- Every man needs appreciation
- Man likes woman feels proud to be wit him
*Personally i think tis is quite true bout man... coz im a man...haha... isit true for u al, woman?
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